Love Lesson

Simple Ways to Woo Enigmatic Hubby

It is so baffling that you just cannot come to terms with it. Gone are the days when starry-eyed your husband transported you to heaven by swearing that his very life depended on that smile of yours. Now his coldness has wiped away the smile from your face. Gone, too, are the days when mere sagging of your step chilled his heart. Now, even if you are drooping with fatigue, he has no eyes to see.

Tell your husband to come home early as you wish to spend the evening with some of your school friends and he is sure to be caught in a traffic jam but when a friend of his asks for some help he will do the near-impossible for him in time. Ask him to buy something for you on his way home and right enough, he will forget it. If you quiz him on Sensex figures over the past few months, pat comes every answer. Wear something trendy and eye-catching and he won't even notice it but let him see a passer-by in a smart outfit and he will be dazzled by her looks.

It hurts and mystifies you, for you just cannot understand how to deal with this enigmatic personality, this male version of Mary-Mary-Quite-Contrary that is your husband but do not be alarmed. You have just to gain some insight into a man's nature to find out the reason for his behaviour.

"A man's heart," it is said, "is a sanctuary where he enshrines only one but there are several antechambers that are seldom vacant." These words, written by a wise guy, say it all.

Now that you are securely lodged in the sanctuary of his heart, he finds no reason for wooing you any longer but directs his attention to making forays into the world around to fill his vacant antechambers. Not understanding his needs, you feel neglected but there's no reason for fear, lady. No reason at all! From your exalted position you can still keep him close to you and here's how:

Nagging is a mortal offence in marriage. Do not ever provoke your husband by saying, "Why did you hide your real face behind a mask before marriage? Had I known what kind of a person you are, I would never have married you." Such words can only send a marriage hurtling down to the point of no return.

HANDLE MALE EGO TACTFULLY

The male ego is a fragile thing which needs to be handled with care rather than crushed under your heel. Diminishing his image hurts his self-esteem as nothing else does. It is something no man will tolerate. So, instead of traversing the negative path of nagging and wounding, try the positive approach of healing, and winning over with wiles and smiles and see for yourself how effective it is.

A niece of mine once tackled an electric repair job on her own when repeated requests and reminders to her husband did not succeed in getting it done. That evening in front of some friends, she had a different story to tell. "Oh Ralph fixed it up for me and now the gadget is working perfectly. He is very good at such jobs," she said, much to my surprise.

Later, in response to my puzzled queries, she offered me an explanation, "If I had said that I had done it on my own, it would have hurt Ralph's pride and he would have been grumpy for days together attacking me all the while for running him down. I would rather let him take the credit for what he hasn't done than live with a sulking husband. These words are revealing and show how important it is not to run down your husband or expose his sins of omission and commission in front of others.

The male ego needs to be pampered and what better way can there be than for the wife to lose a little in order to soothe and coddle that bundle of contradictions that is her husband?

Your husband may win kudos for being a live wire at work and so helpful to everyone around, but at home he is only a couch potato that will not stir. You feel rattled when your son raises a hue and cry that Dad has not repaired his bicycle. Tempted though you are to attack him, do not ever say, "That's your Dad. He has time to do everybody's jobs but not ours." It may be perfectly true but giving voice to such feelings is setting your own house on fire.

Try a mild challenge instead and say, "I don't think Dad's up to it. It must be far too complicated for him, otherwise he would have done it before this. Let's take it to the cycle repair shop this evening and get it fixed." Unable to tolerate this question mark on his abilities, he is sure to bristle up and respond, "Who says I'm not up to it? Here, let me see what's wrong," and while he tries to prove his worth, you'll get the work. done. Do you wish to have your husband's help or expertise in something you are planning to do, but are afraid to request him because he may perversely turn you down? Just pretend to the contrary and act as if you don't need his help at all. His pride will be hurt and he will rush to your aid.

"Our mixie is giving trouble and there's an exchange offer. I'm going this evening to get another one. I hope you'll be at home when the children come back," says Michelle cleverly planning her move.

"You can't go and buy a mixie on your own. You may get duped," objects her husband. "Of course not. Do you think I'm so gullible?" "No, no. Such purchases need attention. I'll come with you," he insists in spite of protests and Michelle cleverly gets what she wants. Perverse moods can be confronted with tricky moves and your objective can be achieved without a word of nagging.

Defeating your husband at his own game is not everything. You need to woo him too, actively, fervently and craftily. Do you remember your courtship days when you were so eager to look your best? You spent hours picking and choosing your clothes, trying different hairstyles before the mirror and looking for ornaments that would enhance your looks. All your energies were directed towards enchanting him by looking gorgeous. Do you do that now?

When I reminded a young woman a few days ago that she was neglecting her looks, she replied, "Who cares? I'm married now." Being married is all the more reason for nursing that hour glass figure and those dewy fresh looks with which you had cast a spell on your husband-to-be.

For the twin reasons that a man can never forget the image of the woman he fell for and loves to show her off to the world you need to sport those good looks at all times.

Marriage is no licence for dowdy figures, unkempt hair and frowning faces. Not lovers alone but husbands too need to be charmed by good looks. So, go for that stunning figure and winning ways you once had and your husband will always be the lover that he was.

BETTER INITIATION

"If my wife is in a good mood I stay at home, if not, I just walk away," says one husband. No man enjoys the company of a shrewish, bawling, complaining wife. So, to keep your husband by your side, put zing into his day with your upbeat mood. Wipe off that scowl from your face and put a smile in its place. Look cheerful, act cheerful, have a spring in your step and a tinkle in your tone, especially when your husband is in a foul mood. Do not let his grumpiness infect you but let your lightheartedness brighten him and he will bless you as the mood-enhancer he can't stay away from.

"My husband and I quarrel often and very bitterly too and when it comes to making up, both of us are too proud to initiate the first move. So, do you know what we do?" asks a long-married friend of mine. "After a while one of us narrates a few jokes or tells a funny story to the children within the other's hearing and as bright laughter breaks out, moods mellow and differences are forgotten.

Finding reasons and occasions to laugh aloud and often, is a good way of keeping up a joyous tempo in the house. Infectious and amnesic as it is, lots of laughter around can thaw the icy coldness that freezes a couple's feelings.

The beginning of marriage need not signal the end of romance. Marriage needs a lot of sugar and spice to make it palatable and romance is what makes it deliciously sweet and tangy. So, relive all those happenings in your courtship that meant so much to both of you, speak of them and celebrate them, for love can be kept alive by fond memories. Take time off from work, household duties and children to sit side by side in the moonlight, or to just walk down the lane far from the madding crowd.

A simple holding of hands, a meaningful meeting of eyes and sweet nothings whispered into each other's ear is what love feeds upon and marriage thrives on a diet of love. So, always remember that romance in marriage is the surest way of seeing that your husband is not overly eager to fill the many antechambers of his heart.

The same faces, the same voices, the same surroundings can well bore anyone as the years roll by. So, to drive away monotony from your marriage take care to see that your life does not revolve just round the cooking range and the washing machine but bring some novelty into your home life. Rearrange the rooms, give them a new look by redecorating them, arrange picnics and outings, attend a concert or two with your husband and spend time in recreational places whenever you can.

So also try some surprises by varying the type of meals you serve, the kind of clothes you wear and the routine you stick to. Every little change can help to drive away boredom and bring novelty into your days and every successful change will make your rating soar in your husband's eyes. If you are a torch that lights up your marriage, your husband will flutter round you like an insect round the light.

TEMPT WITH FOOD

That the route to a man's heart is through his stomach is a truism that is ancient but can never age. To keep that enigmatic husband of hers from straying away, a wife needs to be adept at cooking.

"I hate to cook," "It's so tiring and boring," and "Why bother?" are all excuses that can drive a man away from home and wife. Food is the sustenance of life and love and in the uneven war between man and woman it is the unfailing weapon Nature has given a woman to win over her husband.

Why not make use of it and tempt your man with mouth-watering preparations? Time and effort spent on it are sure to earn rich dividends in the business of marriage.

Husbands are not made to order and we have to make do with what we have. Wishing you had a perfect husband is like longing for the moon. Sighing for one who will always dance to your tune is asking for a henpecked one which is an aberration in marriage. So, what is the way out?

Considering that variety is the spice of life, a flawless husband would not solve any problem as you would still be wanting to find fault with somebody. But, why not accept with grace what is yours? If he is difficult, try to tame him, if he is aloof, try to win him over, and if he is on the rampage, try to woo him back. This will give you enough to do with never a dull or boring moment in your married life. What more can you ask for?

About the Author - Michael Douglas is a relationship expert and a marriage counseler. He provides tips and advice on how to keep love alive and put the romance back in your marriage and relationships. Adopt his recipe for a happy marriage to build healthy and successful relationships forever!

Dating, Romance, Love And Marriage - How To Meet The Right Woman

So you are the knight in shining armor? The problem is, you don't have a princess to defend with. Let me share you something that is sitting right there, under your nose: "Women are everywhere and the right woman is one you can see strolling at the mall, bookstore, coffee bar, internet dating sites, work, clubs, etc." Now that you know that you realize that you don't to be somewhere special to meet the right women, the next thing your should learn is the art of the actually meeting her.

Here are the ways:

First, show confidence! You may not be aware of this but women are shyer then you are. Most women, especially those who are looking for the right man, love to be approached as well. So better get on your knees, approach someone and initiate a good conversation. Easier said that done right? One word my friend: "confidence!" Shaking knees and a mumbling mouth are things you should never have. Opportunity knocks only once so better grab it. If you see someone you like, approach her. With a right timing and proper approach, you will end up seating with her at a coffee bar all the way to a dinner table. Also, women love to see men who bear confidence. While this may not be an overnight success, you can always have your confidence developed. As they say, "right practice makes perfect", so practice, practice, and practice more. Start at your office and talk to women colleagues. Then initiate a conversation with the waitress at a restaurant or the cashier at the grocery. As you build confidence through casual conversations with people, you let go your shaking knees and mumbling mouth.

Second, master the art of conversation. Now that you have finally had the guts to approach women, you should know how to initiate a conversation. Your first words will really make the difference between a "yes" to a dinner or a something like this: "Hi, what's your name" and she replies "Hi, I'm leaving". Pick up lines like, "Gee, that's a nice set of legs, what time do they open?" or "Am I dead, Angel? Cause this must be heaven!" are something that will definitely end a conversation that hasn't begun at all. Make good at this by being sincere, being spontaneous, and not sounding so desperate. Again, it takes practice so if your first approach to a woman at the mall is not successful, do not stop trying. A good sense of humor is always a winner to good women so have them on your reserve and take them out when necessary.

An approach and conversation is not enough. You still need the follow up. So the third thing you should do is to know how to keep a woman wanting. A first date can only have a take two if the woman finds that you are interesting so keep her guessing. Do not tell everything about yourself during the first date. Not only you will dominate the whole conversation and piss your date off, you will also have nothing to say on your second date if ever it will happen. Keep her wanting like the "Arabian Nights".

Most men think that pampering their lady will keep her wanting him. The fact is, it is entirely the exact opposite. Did you ever wonder why many women love "bad boys"? It is because "bad boys" give no regard with women in the way they treat them. Women who are often pampered by men feel that they have the need to get everything they want so they are on a hot pursuit to "bad boys" who keep on playing hard to get.

Finally, meeting the right men does not end up on having the right confidence, knowing the proper way approach, and keeping women wanting because a meeting the right women may not end on a single try. You may have dated a woman and have successfully done all these 3 but still, she does not fit to the definition of "the one" for you. Meeting the right woman is a never-ending process until you are finally convinced that she is "the one".

About the Author - Chloe is a marketing executive with Meet2Go.com. She graduated from the UK's leading university and has over 8 years experience working at the largest ad firms in NYC and London. She is currently in charge of marketing and promotions for Meet2Go.com. Meet2Go is an activity based dating website that allows you post activities, or browse posted activities, and make new friends through common interests.

Dating, Romance, Love And Marriage - How To Meet The Right Man

If you’re looking for “Mr. Right”, and keep finding “Mr. Give me a Try”, then you may not be going about it the right way. The last thing you want, is to become another lonely, desperate soul who chases everyone away because you’re trying to get married quickly. If you play your cards right, and can stay calm, cool, and collected, you may improve your chances of finding “Mr. Right”. Here are a few tips that I have to offer:

First, know what you’re looking for. Finding the perfect man should start with a definition of what you call, “Mr. Right”. Keep in mind that it will differ from your best friends, and that’s okay. That just means the two of you won’t be competing (as much!). Don’t be surprised if you’re sights have been narrowed over the years. You’re just getting a better idea of whom you are compatible with and your chances of success increase with each new parameter. Most of all, don’t force something that isn’t there.

Second, be patient. There’s no rush and rushing into things will only cloud your judgment. There’s nothing wrong with going out with the first person that asks you, but keep that in mind. There will be plenty more, so if he doesn’t meet your criteria and seem like the ideal person for you, then you’re free to thank him for the great evening and move on. The evening of companionship will be nice, but don’t expect him to be the one to remove you from your life of solitude and loneliness.

Third, if you’re in a relationship and he doesn’t fit your criteria, you must reevaluate why you are with him. Just because you have someone to date, doesn’t mean that he’s the right one for you. Being with him may cause you to miss other opportunities that could send your “Mr. Right” into the arms of another woman.

Fourth, if things aren’t working out --- network. Enlarge your circle of friends and try going out with new people. If you spend most of your time with co-workers, then try to look up old college friends through the alumni association. Join a new gym or start shopping at a new grocery store. “Mr. Right” is out there, you just need to increase your chances of bumping into him. Don’t forget to try social networking websites, like Meet2Go.com, parties, wine tasting events, and “fun runs”.

Fifth, volunteer. Even if you’re not turned on by the thought of working for free, if you’re not an outgoing person this is a great opportunity to be forced to be socially active with another person, or other people. When choosing events, think first about where you’re likely to find “Mr. Right”. Will he be working at the local soup kitchen on Saturday morning, or helping walk dogs at the animal shelter? Try and choose something that you think will yield the most success.

Sixth, put yourself out there and leave your body position “open to communication”. By this I mean go out to coffee shops, books stores, food courts, or city parks. When you’re there, leave the seat open next to you and look approachable. It’s also helpful to carry “props”. By props I mean something that puts you in that place for a reason, and is easy to start a conversation about. Keep in mind, if should be relevant to the area, so sitting in a bookstore twirling a Frisbee on your finger is out of the question, ladies. If men see an opportunity to approach you and ask you a question, or make a comment about a book that you’re reading, you’re doing the right thing.

Seventh, go where men go. If you’re shopping for a diamond you don’t look in “Claire’s Boutique” do you? Probably not. Stop by a sports bar on a big game night, wearing a jersey for the local favorite team (remember to remove the tag if you just bought it on your way there!). If you know anything about sports, don’t hesitate to dazzle the local men with your intimate knowledge of the passing records for John Elway. If you don’t know sports, claim to be there to support a friend and are like watching the game, but admittedly don’t know much about it. Your best bet may be to visit Google or ESPN.com and do a little research on who’s who in the big game.

Eighth, above all else, be yourself. While it may not seem like it all the time, men want to know who you are. The real you is bound to come out and visit sooner or later, so why not make it sooner? If he doesn’t like you for who you are, then he’s probably not your “Mr. Right”. Good luck, and happy dating!

About the Author - Chloe Miller recomments Meet2Go.com A new friendship and online dating platform. Online Dating LondonPost activities and find partners with similar interests. Online Dating Free, Friends, Activities

Tips To Spice Up Your Marriage

Every marriage needs a little relief from the same old bedroom routine now and then. Here is a collection of tips to up the Scoville units in your romance.

Get Wet and Wild

The bath or shower can be more than just a place to get clean! It can also be a sexy rendezvous to reconnect with your spouse. Taking the time to bathe each other and wash one another’s hair can be a sensual delight. Steam up the bathroom with some erotic accessories inviting to both you and your spouse. If you have the available counter space or open shelves, place scented candles around the room. Keep aromatic bath oils and waterproof toys close by. Just be sure you have a private place to store your toys if you have children or expect guests.

One if by Land...

Keep a set of "signal" sheets (or even just a signal pillow) that you or your spouse can put on the bed to silently request a romantic tryst. Pick an unusual color, a sexy material like satin or a bold pattern - or a pillow with a sexy come-hither saying on it.

An Appetite for Love

Prepare a dinner that is a prelude to love wearing nothing but an apron and a smile. There are so many foods that have been thought to be aphrodisiacs that you will have no problem planning a menu. Some ideas are oysters, pine nuts, peaches, grapes, walnuts -- even asparagus - or just serve something special to the two of you. More important than the food is that the meal stirs the senses by evoking arousing smells, tastes and textures. Don't forget to play mood music and put candles in every room. You don't even have to make it to the bedroom - why not have a change of sexual venue in the kitchen?

Go Postal!

Buy some pretty or provocative stationery - or use your computer to create an invitation for a romantic date or trip for you and your spouse. Include all of the details including the time, date, what to wear and where to meet, but keep the romantic event itself a surprise. Address the envelope to your spouse and mail it to him or her. In this era of instant communication with email, text messaging and cell phones, the invitation will be a romantic surprise.

Let's Dance

Remember when a mix tape was sooo romantic? To get you in the mood, make a mix CD of all of your favorite sexy songs or fun songs and have a dance together. Get as wild or as romantic as you wish - your dances can go as far as you like. You can add a bump-and-grind music and do your own strip tease or some salsa and do your own forbidden dance of love.

Reach Out and Touch Someone

Don't forget simple pleasures. Brushing your spouse's hair, a light sensual massage or just cuddling can be extremely sensuous. Touching always leads to more touching. Play touching games by seeing how lightly you can run your hands over your spouse's body, spell out suggestive words with your finger and see if he or she can guess what you wrote.

Hide and Seek

Take a sexy picture of yourself and hide it with a suggestive note in his or her briefcase, wallet or lunch box. Just make sure not to put it where it may be found by children or coworkers.
Trick or Treat
Costumes are not just for kids at Halloween. There are so many sexy costumes out there for men and women. Try role playing as a pilot and a stewardess - or a teacher and a schoolgirl - or a real estate agent and a prospective home buyer. The possibilities are endless. Fantasy foreplay can lead you to realms of spiciness you never knew existed. Let your imagination run wild.

Romance Zone

Keep your bedroom off limits for everything except sleep and romance. Do not allow it to be a center of the household where you write bills or do work, it should be a haven for you and your spouse and a stress-free zone where you enjoy one another and your marriage. Use soft colors and fabrics, fresh cut flowers on your nightstand, mirrors and your favorite art - anything to create an atmosphere of relaxation and sensuality.

About the Author - Copyright 2005 katieroseintimates.com Katie Rose is the owner of Katie Rose Intimates Sexy Costumes and Lingerie A fine lingerie shop featuring fantasy clothing, leather and lace and intimate apparel in sexy, erotic, romantic and unique styles - with special attention plus sizes.

Top 10 Romantic New Year's Resolutions

Here are my top 10 Romantic New Year's Resolutions - I hope at least a few of them work for you and your partner - Happy New Year!

Start a Date Night
Set a date night at least once a month. Even if it's just dinner and a movie, make time for each other and get out and about.

Saying I love you
continually say "I love you," with both words and actions.

Remove the TV from the bedroom
Television is a huge intimacy-killer. Having a TV in the bedroom is like having another person there too.

Surprises
Spontaneity is the key here. Try sending her flowers "just because". Buy him / her 2 tickets to a game of his favorite sport or play.

Weekend Get-a-way
Take a romantic weekend away for no reason (no anniversary, holiday, etc) except to be together. Head to a cabin in the mountains, a local bed and breakfast, or a relaxing spa.

Show Your Love
Give your partner compliments, hold hands, open doors, and engage in public displays of affection. It's the little things you do to show your love that always mean the most.

Learn More About Each Other
There is always more to learn about your partner and you can have a lot of fun doing it.

Stay sexy
It's common knowledge that we tend to let ourselves go after time - not everybody does it, but when stress and time take their tolls, often how we look is what goes out the window.

Be creative
Shake up your romantic life with a little creativity. Think outside of the box. One of the easiest things to do is to create a coupon book for your partner and give him/her one coupon for every week of the year.

Create your own resolutions together
A list like this might be a helpful starting point, but the best way to create romantic resolutions that will stick is to sit down with your partner and create some that are meaningful to you both.

The Art Of Love - A Look At The Stages Of Love

Love can be broken down into three stages, which include the first, which is erotic passion or lust, the second, which is romantic passion or attraction and the third, which is attachment or commitment. Let us take a look at all three stages. Be aware that you are not going to experience all three stages with everyone you meet. It is possible to feel attracted to someone and to lust after them but to not ever fall in love with them. The more you date the more you will come to learn the difference between the three stages.

Lust first enters our lives after puberty. At this time estrogen in girls and testosterone in boys become active in our brains and we begin to desire love, only is it a very primal form that is more akin to lust. It is believed by researchers that lust and romantic love came about as a result of different things. Lust developed due to the need to find a sexual mate while romantic love is more connected with the need to bond with the child that comes about as a result of a sexual union taking place. It is normal then for someone to feel romantic love for a person but not feel lust, or vice versa. It is our appearance, our pheromones and the traits we look for in a mate that play a vital role in where lust takes us, however it is believed that it is a desire for romantic love that leads people to the second stage, which is attraction.

In order for a relationship to move forward, lust must give way to attraction or romantic passion. How long this takes to happen is different for everyone. Romantic passion often renders us incapable of thinking logically and at this stage we cannot stop thinking about the other person. As well we tend to romanticize every aspect of the object of our affection and we do not see that the person has any flaws whatsoever. At this stage the other person is perfect. When couples reach this important stage of a relationship, they will find themselves spending every possible moment together and they will enjoy the process of getting to know one another very well. The expression "love is blind" comes into play at this stage of love. If the romantic passion remains strong and intense then the couple will find themselves well on their way to the third stage of love, which is commitment or attachment.

The commitment stage is when love is for the long haul. The fantasy and romanticism of love has passed and now real deep love has been entered. Many relationships falter and fall apart at this stage, as it is not easy to endure certain problems once a couple has become deeply attached to one another. Researchers have found that the happiest couples are the ones where one partner idealizes the other, such as seeing the person in as favorable a light as possible. For example, believing that your partner is a better listener than you or more sympathetic to others tends to work towards a happier and more lasting marriage. It has also been should that certain chemicals are released in the brain during the commitment stage of love. These chemicals include endorphins, oxytocin and vasopressin.

About the Author - Dustin is owner of JustArticlesVIP.com and writes on a variety of subjects. To learn more about this topic Dustin recommends you visit Adult Easy Dating

How to be a better kisser

As with driving, cooking, and cage fighting, kissing is a skill that requires practice. Most women like to think they’ve come a long way since locking braces with their high-school sweetheart. And they have! But still, there’s plenty more they could learn. Follow along with some tales of woe, and some tales of woah, and take notes on the dos and don’ts of kissing a man.

Lean to the right
“Lean to the right. I thought that was common knowledge, but I’ve been with at least three girls who went left when we went in for a kiss. It was adorably awkward, I guess, but I would’ve much rather avoided the conspicuous bruise that showed up on my forehead. I had to explain that it wasn’t a hickey, but a battle wound caused by make-out misdirection. To any woman who reads this, remember, go right.”
—Sam, cameraman

Take charge
“Don’t be afraid to take the lead. I was at a bar on New Year’s Eve and, when the ball dropped, some of my female friends and I exchanged quick smooches. Then I locked eyes with a cute friend of a friend, who I’d never really met before. The mood took over, and we started to kiss. Next thing I knew, my back was against the bar and we were deeply making out. Her kissing style wasn’t overly aggressive, just firm, confident, and sexy. She took charge, and I was powerless to resist.” —Steve, writer

Close your eyes
“I had one girlfriend who, for some reason, always kept her eyes open when we kissed. I’d get this strange feeling that I was being watched while we made out, only to open my eyes briefly to find her staring back at me. Not only was it disconcerting as hell, but it made me self-conscious. Was she picking apart my moves? Did I make some kind of funny face I wasn’t aware of? I’d be completely thrown for the rest of the night.” —Jon, editor

Get your hands in on the action
“Run them through my hair, or, if you really want to get me going, stroke my neck. Yeah, it’s a bit effeminate of me, but it makes me feel as if she’s enjoying it so much that she can’t control herself. Just lip-to-lip contact is the missionary position of making out.”
—Timothy, writer

Pause before you pucker
“A well-timed pause can really add to a passionate kiss. I love it when a girl leans in but doesn’t lock lips right away. She’ll go right to the point where we’re about to close our eyes, and then smirk or giggle or do something that lets me know she wants to savor the moment. And so do I.”
—Chris, certified financial planner

Chuck the gum
“Is it really too much to ask that you not chew gum when we kiss? It’s funny in the movies when a girl kisses a guy and he magically ends up with her gum in his mouth, but real life is a different story. I’m all for a little tongue-on-tongue action but, please, ditch the Trident before we get there.”
—Chandler, 34, club promoter

No brushstrokes
“I went on a semi-blind date and the conversation was natural, we both laughed a lot, and I think we both knew the date was going to end with a first kiss. Unfortunately, her technique can best be described as ‘lip painting.’ She literally painted my lips with her tongue, in a circular motion. I recoiled as politely as I could, and retreated to some pecks. Then I escaped in a cab and never called her back.”
—John, radio host

By Matt Christensen - he has written for Maxim and WWE Magazine.

A Lover’s Puzzle

Buy a Puzzle (about 100 pieces or so) and assemble it. *Turn in over and write a romantic message or suggestion for the evening on the back. Take it apart. Have a candle light dinner and present it to her. Let her know that there is a message waiting for her and enjoy the evening.

Additionally, choose some suitable music to play while she is putting the puzzle together

*Put it together on a piece of cardboard or several sections of newspaper – once together, place another heavy piece of newspaper over the top and flip it upside down.

Top 10 Places to Kiss

Here is my top 10 list of “places” to kiss.

1. Anytime it’s unexpected

2. In the shower

3. In the rain

4. At the airport

5. In a park

6. In bed

7. In public

8. The beach

9. Under a full moon

10. Amusement park

Have one to add to the list? Drop me a note!

Write a Love Letter In 6 Easy Steps

You want to tell your partner how you feel about them but you end up staring at a blank screen for so long you give up. Or you try a few lines only to delete them all and start over. Again. Why is it so hard to tell the loved one in our life exactly what they mean to us? Do you struggle to find the words to properly convey how you feel? Or is it that you just can’t explain it? Don’t let words get in the way of telling your loved one how much they mean to you.

Everyone wants to be loved. When you are busy living life, there never seems time to slow down and really savour that central relationship that makes it all worthwhile. Oftentimes we think that those closest to us know exactly how we feel about them and how important they are to us. But the sad reality is that often they don’t.

So how can you write a love letter that you will feel proud to give and one that your loved one will cherish for all time? Where do you start? Follow these easy tips below and you’ll be on your way in no time.

1.First write down 5 things that you love about your partner and be as specific as possible. Rather than writing that they are kind, instead be detailed about how they are kind. Perhaps they always smile at waiters in restaurants or they are great at making people feel included, especially at parties.

2.Write down 5 things that they have done that confirms how much you love them and again, give examples. Perhaps they enveloped you in a hug last night when you were feeling frustrated about your family. Or maybe they knew how disappointed you were when you missed out on that promotion and they cooked a special meal to cheer you up.

3.Pick the best three examples from each of the above categories and weave them into your letter. You could start by saying ‘I love how you…’ and then include the three examples from the first point. Then you could say something like ‘I loved the way you…’ and then mention the other examples. Make sure you emphasise how their actions made you feel, how loved you felt and how grateful you are to have them in your life.

4.It is best to write up a draft first and then go over it to see if you can improve it. Sometimes it helps to write up what you want to say, edit it until it flows well and then leave it for a day or two before going back for a final edit and polish.

5.Buy some special paper and write out your letter. Don’t worry if your handwriting isn’t perfect – it’s distinctly yours and your loved one will appreciate the time and effort you put into the letter. If you feel your writing is so bad it will be difficult to read or if your illegible handwriting is something you’ve argued about before then pay to get it hand written by a professional. At a stretch you could use a more romantic font on your computer, say Garamond in italic, but you should really only do that as a last resort. The more personal you can make your letter the more your loved one will treasure it.

6.Think about how you plan on delivering this letter to them. Will you slip it in their briefcase? Mail it? Leave it under the pillow? Do you want to be there when they open it? If you want to see their reaction, then it is best to hand it to them. You could team the letter up with a small gift like flowers or chocolate but make sure the gift doesn’t diminish the letter as you want that to be the main focus.